I think the ‘women are required to do femininity and simultaneously punished for it’ bit sums up 90% of sexism in one sentence.
a derogatory slur for a masculine woman
how do you…how do you think women are rewarded for being masculine??? like at all? and don’t you realize that the only reason why women aren’t being beaten in the streets for acting masculine is because of the work of 50 years of feminism????
reblogging for commentary
reblogging for commentary as well.
It’s more complicated than binary; ciswomen are rewarded for certain masculine-coded behaviors and punished for others in a completely arbitrary fashion. It’s totally awesome if she’s ‘one of the guys’ in that she can drink beer/hard liquor and watch sports and not be ‘high maintenance’ or into that gross boring ‘girly stuff’ - but she also has to retain perfect and effortless femininity while doing all of this ’ awesome guy stuff’. She has to be nonthreatening to masculinity while also not being abhorrently feminine because femininity is weak and stupid and exists to be derided. It’s awesome if your thin, conventionally-attractive, long-haired girlfriend likes watching football, but actual female football players are gross dykes. Especially if they’re better at it than you.
Also, point: “dyke” is not a slur for a masculine woman. It’s an implication that she is a lesbian. A woman is allowed to be (and encouraged to be) as masculine as possible so long as that masculinity means she is appealing to men. This is why being “one of the guys” is OK (because it increases her appeal to men) but doing things like not shaving her legs or wearing unflattering clothing isnot OK, because it means she is no longer considered sexually appealing.
Masculinity in women is allowed only to the point that they are still considered fuckable.
Just..the commentary is A+
I really just need to reblog this whole thing every month or so because it keeps getting awesome and entirely accurate commentary put in.
The one thing that always gets me with this quote is the “new kind of sexism” like, uh, I’m 98% sure that this ain’t new. At all. It’s just part of what is at the bones of the ages-old sexism we still got going, and that is slowly being stripped away so its becoming more evident, at most. The favouring of men over women (which STILL HAPPENS needless to say) had masculinity over femininity packaged in with it and, in centuries past, you could even argue that that aspect was the more evident one. Other than that, I do love this quote.
Okay seriously just look how handsome my boyfriend is. I can’t stop staring at this picture, he’s just so damn gorgeous! 😍❤️
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Yup. I lost 40 pounds
If anyone is waiting for an update on me and Viktor, you will have to wait a little longer. We’re still together and all but I’ve had a hard time writing an update lately since I just tear up everytime I start writing because I miss him so much. So yeah an update is coming, but it might take a little longer than I expected. But yeah, I’m still so fucking in love, in case anyone was wondering :)
The friends you will call extensions
of yourself the day you graduate high
school may not be the first people
you call when you get engaged.
Not all kisses will be good ones.
Some will be wet and miss your
mouth by so much, you’ll start to
wonder if they’re looking for
something beyond you, something
your skin will never add up to.
The first time you go home with
a stranger, tell them they are
beautiful and spend the night
begging them to show you
more of their heart in between
your crescendos and releases.
When you leave in the morning
without saying goodbye, hope
they understand that it was
for their own good.
The people you love can be
untouchable and hard and mean
when they have been hurt, but
do not let that stop you from
breaking down their bathroom
doors and holding them together.
You will find that people often
insist that they are whole far
more when they are falling apart
inside of your arms.
It took me so long to learn that other
people are not limbs. You can hurt
for them when they break, but your
pain will not be one in the same with
their experience. Do not tell her you
“know how she feels”, tell her you
will be here when she needs to
Pain can be so great, but the
sky is always the most beautiful
after nasty storms, bent on
knocking down trees and keeping
homes in the dark.
Buy an umbrella.
Don’t let anyone tell you
that you do not already
have everything you will
i just really hope all of you find someone who is really cool that you can love and have sex with and all that shit but you can also talk politics and about evolution. someone you don’t cling to at parties but you nonchalantly grab their ass when you walk by them in the crowd and someone you reach for at 2am in between dreams to cuddle.